Boundaries & Balance

Dissociation makes a certain sort of visibility. The person who has learned to float above their own life, to hover, and to watch is clear in ways they don't mean to be. Their distance from themselves is clear on the surface. It sounds like a particular type of openness, not the openness of trust, but the openness of...

This is what it's like to fall in love in the Opathian state. There isn't the wide, easy opening that the cultural narrative offers. It's very scary. It makes you feel lost. It's like someone or something is reaching through

The Opathian state develops when a child's nervous system makes a specific calculation: full emotional presence is too dangerous. The environments that produce this calculation are not always dramatic.